Most of my life, I have felt the truth you wrote about the service being for the living. I am taking your guidance to heart; I have not always been the best at going to funerals, but I have changed that in recent years. It was mostly not feeling like my presence would add much value and some internal resistance caused by general social anxiety. I feel like I'm growing up a bit, and I'm starting to understand that even a silent, accepting presence can be of comfort. Thank you for helping to reinforce that and for sharing such interesting experiences.